Merriam Webster lists the definition of crazy as "full of cracks or flaws, mad, insane, impractical, absurdly fond, infatuated, passionately preoccupied or obsessed." (www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/crazy)
I have been conducting a study with single men of different ages and status over the past few months on what it means when guys say "She is crazy" or a woman says "he is nuts". Women all over town share stories about how these fickle guys pursue them, ask them out, and then never contact them again. They cannot figure what they possibly could have done wrong and these ladies are sick of hearing "it's not you it's me".
One time I asked a guy what happened when he was dating my girlfriend. I wanted the inside scoop because she could not understand why they had such a good time and he never called her again. He said "oh she was crazy". I did not understand what that meant. So I went on my journey asking single men everywhere to please give me a specific example of what you mean by "crazy".
Read each case and give us your comments by referring to their gender, age status in each heading:
Male, 26, Single
"We’ve gone out a few times, but now all she does is call and text, text and call, and I am too shocked to even reply, and she STILL continues to do it! So I have to show this to my buddies, and we laugh at how I haven’t responded to anything and yet the texts/calls keep coming. It started off as her trying to get together one night, but I was working. But that first time after we had gone out, she texted me like 7 times asking what I was doing, she called me twice, and at the end started asking why I was ignoring her! So I called her back, explaining that I was working and couldn’t get to my phone. She would then continue asking me out, sending me pictures of what she was eating for breakfast/lunch/dinner, trying to start inside jokes, etc. I was blown away by how much time she was devoting to texting me, and I hadn’t responded after that first night. Eventually I lied and said I started talking to my ex again, and that got her away."
Male, 46, Divorced
"The night didn’t go according to the EXACT plan in her head, and now she is in a terrible mood for the rest of the night, and we inevitably get into a ridiculous argument
over literally anything. NEXT morning…. She apologizes to me and wants to pretend like it never happened; unfortunately this is turning into a routine."
Male, 32, Single
"On a Friday night, I took my now ex-gf out with all of my friends for some drinks and good times. About 20 minutes in, she comes to the decision that I am not paying enough attention to her, and she wants to leave. I tell her she is more than welcome to go, but I am going to stay seeing as I don’t get to see all these people that often during the work week. She begins the argument that it’s wrong that I don’t want to spend the night with her, and I give all of my attention to my friends – even though I have seen her/stayed with her 3 out of the 5 work days, and not seen my friends. Then, to get me away from my friends, she begins to cry after I walk her to her car to say goodbye, attempting to keep me away from them for longer. When I don’t give in to her ploy, she leaves, and then proceeds to text me a book-long text asking how I could let her leave while upset. This is inevitably followed by a phone call that you cannot ignore because she would call and call and call until you answered. By this time (after the call) I’m in such a terrible/angry/annoyed mood that I go home by myself anyways. CRAZY."
Male, 24, Single
"I was invited to my best friend’s sister’s wedding – which just so happened to be on the same night that my gf’s parents had bought tickets for all of us to some country music concert (don’t remember who). I chose to attend the wedding as I would hope any sane person would do. It’s a once in a lifetime (hopefully) event, that means a lot to the person who invited you. A CONCERT – is replaceable. The gf did not see it this way. We had this argument for days on
end before the events, and even more days after. Her main argument – I need to make her more of a priority. My argument – you need to prioritize better."
Male, 44, Divorced
"I took this girl out once to dinner. We had a great time and I wanted to see her again. She kept texting me the day after "had a great time, looking forward to seeing each other again." I told her my schedule was nuts and I have a really hectic life and that we would probably see each other soon.
Periodically she would text me, ask me for a drink after I told her I would let her know when we were going to see each other again. She continued to text, "hey when are we getting together" and I kept telling her I had an insane life and a terribly hectic schedule. It was crazy!"
What do you think?
BY ANTONIA RAGOZZINO, AUTHOR, TAKING OUT THE TRASH
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I am humbled by my evening at a Guilford, CT gathering of wonderful women! My book, "Taking Out the Trash", was chosen for their month's book club. I have to admit I was frightened that I was going to walk in and find over 10 strong women staring at me and telling me my book stunk! They were so genuinely happy to meet me and absolutely loved the book. It was amazing that my book about trash connected with married women. I realized last night my work is no longer about men or being single. "Taking out the trash" is simply a metaphor. Let it go, leave it behind and having some laughs while you are facing the trials and tribulations of the life! Trash will pile up if you let it so dump it, learn from it and move on!